You have just been let go from your job, your girlfriend has dumped you, or maybe you’ve just found out that the average penis length isn’t 3.5 inches. We all go through rough patches and sometimes the last thing we want is advice. Especially the type that is of no use to us whatsoever. You know the type...
Hard Hitting Advice For Men Going Through a Rough Patch
The fact is, whatever problems life throws at you, be aware that it’s imperative that you suck it up and move on.
Have a blowout…(the unofficial bit of advice)
By all means, go to the pub, drown your sorrows and slag off your ex-boss to anyone who’ll listen. Seek the company of a woman and squash any doubts you have about being a worthy lover. Do what you have to do to blow the cobwebs off, momentarily escape reality and feel good about yourself. Enjoy it while it lasts because you're likely to wake up feeling as rough as a badgers arse the following morning and that’s a good thing. Embrace the feeling of dread and despair because…
Life gets better from here on out
Be Present -
That’s right, don't dwell on the past or worry about the future. Focus on the here and now. Unless you’re god, which I assume you're not, you don't have the power to change the past or predict the future. It’s happened, learn from it, grow from it, but most important of all...deal with it!
Be Reactive -
Bad experiences can have a tendency to knock our confidence and can leave you second-guessing yourself. This can prove costly when it comes to bouncing back and rebuilding the part of your life that’s been affected. Ensure you fully comprehend what’s previously happened and don't let it manifest and crossover into other areas of your life. You shouldn’t let a bad experience at work hamper your health or personal relationships, and vice versa.
Accept it and move on -
in 2016 life didn’t just present me with a shit sandwich, oh no! I got presented with an “all you can eat” buffet of shit sandwiches. And I gorged on every last morsel. And guess what? It got me absolutely fucking nowhere. Apart from an even darker place in my life. The moment my life changed was when I said, enough is enough and I got my finger out my arse and moved on. I accepted what had happened in the past and drew a line under it. I'm not saying it was easy, but It does work. It really comes down to how much you want to change.
Don’t get angry, get even - (well sort of)
Don't listen to anyone who says anger or hatred can’t be used to spur you on to achieve great success in life. There is nothing like seeing your ex-girlfriend when you have been smashing it at the gym and are in great shape. Or, becoming your ex-boss’s biggest competitor and taking business away from them. Use that emotion to your advantage and let it be the catalyst to drive you forward in your chosen endeavor. Just ensure you are 100% certain of what your desired outcome is. It pays to remember that anger and hurt are only emotions and will only fuel motivation in the short term. Finding your real purpose is what is going to help you build something long term.
Forgive and…don't forget -
It doesn’t pay to entirely forget our past because hardship and pain can often be the trigger to greater success. I find it can be a valuable weapon to have in your arsenal if used correctly. Most self-help books will advise against this, choosing to forget all of your past emotions and negativity, and focus on healing your wounds.
But say you've just found out your wife has been fucking (Mike) her personal trainer and she is leaving you because you're a lazy fat bastard. Are you going to just accept it and take it on the chin, wish them both well and give Mike your blessing to evoke pleasure on your now ex Missus? For what, so you can find inner peace and serenity? Good luck with that. The sheer memory will haunt you for years to come.
Or you can use the experience for what's worth. Use the pain of being hurt disrespected by your ex, your personal shame for allowing yourself to get so fat and out of shape, and the sheer embarrassment of being dick slapped by Mike.
Sort your shit out and get in shape, focus on you and take action - now!
Remember you are in this position because of the decisions you have made. No one else is to blame apart from you! You might have been dealt a shit hand but never the less, it's your hand and only you can play it!
Want to sort your life out?
Is it a miracle cure that will change your life with no effort on your part. Absolutely not! But it is the blueprint for gaining clarity and focus in your life. You simply need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your finger out your arse.
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